Illusion of Control
Rikki Permenter, MAMFC, Th. M.
“In his hand is the life of every living thing and the breath of all mankind.”
- Job 12:10
Over the past month, life in the area we live has changed drastically. Since the Great Flood of 2016 people have grieved the loss of homes, possessions, friends, family, and loved pets. Each person’s loss is different - yet just as difficult to grieve. While the loss has been great, the outpouring of love from others has also been great. People have given their time, resources, and hearts to others to help meet the needs they can. As a counselor, one resource I am easily able to give is a listening ear.
I’ve heard people cry over homes, cherished heirlooms, photographs, home movies, “new” furniture, “old” furniture, and various other things that simply “can’t be replaced.” While people tell me their story there is one specific loss that is much greater than any other they mention. This loss holds a great psychological weight and creates, in many cases, more emotional distress than the rest. This loss is common among people who have experienced a natural disaster, a near death experience, or traumatic event of some kind. This loss is the illusion of control. Many people feel in control of their lives, their families, their finances, or their possessions. It takes an “act of God” for people to realize they can only control themselves, and even so - they are at the mercy of God who gives them breath. God, who sets the stars in the sky and knows them by name (Psalms 147:4) also carries humanity into each day (Psalms 68:19).
The feeling of being “out of control” is psychologically uncomfortable. People take extreme measures to never experience this feeling. If you’ve been feeling out of control lately: remember, you do not need control - you need the One who is in complete control. Embrace the feelings that come with losing the illusion of control with the full knowledge that God has got you! He is in complete control and wants to hear about your losses, your sorrow, and your pain. With him in control you are free to see the blessings he sends your way each day.
This article can be found in print in the monthly Baptist Association of Southeast Louisiana newsletter.
